Thursday, April 24, 2008

THE SOUNDS OF SILENCE

How do people live alone? My husband's been out of town for the past 3 days and even though I've been super busy getting ready for the end of Seminary, the thought has passed through my head more than once, that I really don't like the solitude. Oh sure, it was kind of nice the first day. I even thought it would be good that my husband was going to be gone for 3 days because I had so much to do. I didn't have to fix dinner, I just ate a bowl of cereal or an egg for diner. I don't know, maybe people get used to it, but to me it seemed sort of mundane. Go here, do that, work on the computer, work on Seminary, do the wash, water the tree that looks like it's about to die, go shopping, come home, eat dinner, practice the piano, read a book, go to bed. I think if my husband died before me, I'd have to do some big time volunteering somewhere. It's good that I live close to my kids. Even though I was so busy I didn't have time to go and visit them, it's nice to know that I could have if the solitude really got to me. I think another thing I would have to do if I lived alone would be to play some music really loud for awhile each day. Or leave the tv on with the volume turned up. Just for awhile.

7 comments:

Inside Stories said...

I've spent much of the past 2 months alone, and I hate it, and I don't live near kids. I have played a lot of music to just not have a silent house, and I make it a point to get out of the house for awhile each day,although there is really no place to go.
People say, "Oh, get in the car and go visit", but that takes gas and food money and it also means you impose on people, so that isn't really a solution.
You have to be born into most of the little towns in this state to be really accepted, so old ladyhood here doesn't look that promising.
I'm with you, it may take doing something else to make life livable, but right now I'm in limbo until I know whether or not I'm getting grandkids here.

Delirious said...

I don't mind the days so much, but I would hate to sleep alone at night.

Amber said...

okay i had to post cause I have lived alone by myself for quite some time now and i will say that it DOES get better after awhile - i'd say 6 months, 9 months, 1 year. It really didn't bother me after that and I really liked it actually. Leaving the tv on for background noise is something I'm guilty of, and I've also had conversations with myself too lol. It's really just a matter of keeping busy and getting that human interaction at every opportunity, and books and hobbies help. And at risk of being hypocritical, if you think about it you're never really alone if you believe in God. :)

Stace-Ghost said...

I hate being alone. I live off social interaction so even being alone for a few hours can sometimes make me a little crazy. It might sound like I'm needy, as if I cant survive alone but thats not the case. I could survive, but I would just prefer to have someone to talk to.

Bullet for Babs said...

I agree...sometimes when I'm alone, I find myself going to stores and going shopping and not really buying anything but just walking around and being around people...I've even done it at like 3 in the morning but in a different way...I'll find some 24 hour drive thru when I'm not even that hungry to order a small treat...it makes me feel better but I'm glad I have someone...

Lindsay-Weaver said...

I think if it's a planned trip, where you know ahead of time that your husband is going to be gone, you can plan a project to take up some time. Plan a sleepover with your kids/grandkids. Have a pedicure/manicure night for all your girls and grandaughters. I speak from experience. When my husband's out of town, I like to take advantage of it by planning things I wouldn't normally do if he were home. (You know, like midnight excursions to Village Inn for pie with my sisters? It's been a while since I've done that, though.) If you were a widower, you would adjust with time. You could take advantage of it and do everything like scripture study, exercise, family history, try new recipes, you know, everything that we're supposed to do but never have time for? :) LOL

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twcook36 said...

I'm alone a lot at night because my husband doesn't get home until 2 or 3 in the morning sometimes, but I usually like it because I can go to bed early. :) But, I think that it is different, because a couple of times he has worked until 5 in the morning and when he isn't there by 3, it wakes me up and I have to go and find him. I wonder if he passed away, would I still wake up at 3 and go to look for him? Probably. Too sad to think about. :)